It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine explores the way we process grief and the expectations society puts on grief and the grieving.  Devine uses her own experience with grief and people's response to her grief as a foundation for examining how society treats the grieving. She discusses how we often view grief as a problem to be solved and how hurtful that attitude can be.  Devine spends quite a bit of time exploring the idea that everyone's grief is different. She emphasizes that everyone has the right to grieve in the way that best works for them. I vacillated between finding It's OK That You're Not OK very insightful, somewhat short-sighted, and occasionally contradictory. As I read, I kept wondering why and how we continue to get it so wrong since everyone grieves at some point in their life and everyone seems to know we're doing it wrong, at least when experiencing grief themselves.



Check back soon for my thoughts on other books I'm reading including:

Write a Poem a Day: 30 prompts to unleash your imagination by Sage Cohen
The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker
Life 3.0: Being Human in the Age of Artificial Intelligence by Max Tegmark
Self Love: Journey of Self-Discovery and Emotional Healing to Help You Feel Good Enough: Guided Journal by Suzanne Heyn
The Collected Poems of Elizabeth Barrett Browning


Reviews will be posted as I finish these books.



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